So, you’ve agreed to take part in the wild ride that is marriage. You’ve found someone to share your life with and who will stand up with you in front of your closest family and friends and confess their love to you. Congrats! It’s pretty amazing that you found someone that you think is worth marrying. Here are 11 signs that you’re marrying your soulmate:
You respect them
You respect and value them and their opinion, and value their opinion over the opinion of others. Even if you disagree with their view, you still respect it. You respect their autonomy over themselves and not as your property.
You both have empathy for each other’s emotions
When they are sad or in pain, you feel it with them. Instead of sympathising with them, you put yourself in their shoes and really feel what they are feeling.
You both have your own interests
And it’s okay! Maybe your partner likes sports and you like gaming, or you like trashy reality tv and they like baking cakes. As long as you both support each other in our activities, it’s totally fine that you don’t spend every waking hour together.
You have complete trust in them
You should feel secure and protected by your soulmate! You trust your soulmate to protect you and your feelings.
You prioritise one another
You both put the other first in life, above all else. Of course, you need to eat, sleep and breathe but you put them in front of other activities, especially when they need you.
Even when you’re mad, you love them
Even mid-argument, you can look at their adorable (and annoying) face and think “darn, I still love that face!”.
You can agree to disagree
After an argument, you can make up and agree to disagree. No one is right all of the time. You two can have differing opinions and then move on with your lives.
You have charisma
Your conversations have a spark. You love talking to them and hearing their worldview and knowing how they feel about certain topics or situations.
They push you to improve
They don’t let you get too comfortable with your life as is… they are always striving to push you to do better! Whether it’s a new personal best at the gym, a higher test score or a new job, they want you to succeed and will push you to get the best results possible.
You’re both open and honest
You don’t lie to each other (unless planning a surprise for them!) and you can open up to them and tell them how you’re feeling without fear of judgment.
You’re on the same team
You have a little bit of that “us against the world” mentality going on. You can both trust that the other will be on your side.
Originally published here.