Each ceremony is unique; I try to find out as much about the person as is possible by talking to family and friends.
You probably know that Humanist weddings have no legal standing in England; when I started conducting weddings in 2002 the same was true of our colleagues in Scotland, but since then the law has changed in their favour. I’m hoping that the same will be true of Humanist weddings in England before too long.
That hasn’t stopped many couples deciding on having a Humanist Wedding ceremony – in fact, it gives them greater freedom. It means that they can hold the ceremony wherever they like, even outside if they wish. It also means that they can write their own vows and have the important people in their lives taking part in the ceremony with readings, poetry, live music or singing . Couples usually nip into the Registry Office to do the legal formalities a few days before their Humanist ceremony, which they consider to be the “proper” wedding.
Often, couples choose to hold their ceremony in settings that are meaningful to them, sometimes in the grounds of their own home, or sometimes in places that are licensed wedding venues.