My blood boils at the thought of being given away. What else can I do?

Father of the bride
Help! I’m feeling a bit stuck. I really, really love my Dad but my blood boils every time I think of being ‘given away’ at the altar. I feel like a piece of property! Any ideas for a good compromise?

This is a tricky one, and you’re far from the first bride to feel caught between a rock and a hard place. After all, that journey down the aisle is something most fathers look forward to forever, but then it’s also not 1700.

So, here’s something you could do. Have Dad walk you down the aisle but, when you get to the first row, kiss him on the cheek and let him sit down with your Mum. Then you can take the final step towards your groom as an independent woman!

Another idea would be to have your mother join both of you, while your fiance’s parents stand with him, and then the celebrant can ask ‘who gives this woman?’ AND ‘who gives this man?’

It’s a nice way of “evening” up the score while still holding on to a very sweet piece of tradition.

What do you think? 

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One response to “My blood boils at the thought of being given away. What else can I do?”

  1. Natacha says:

    I very much felt this utter repulsion to being quote : given away by my father. I point blank told my husband that if he even asked for my dad’s permission to Marry I would not get engaged to him. However when I broached the subject of walking down the aisle with my parents I could see that not doing it would hurt my dad’s feelings more than the satisfaction I would get from walking down the isle solo. I think you need to weigh up just how much it means to you and if, infact you really think it’s something that you really can’t stomach or your Dad doesn’t really mind anyway go for it .

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